Focus On Your Goal

When you start to share your desire to be more than just a mom with some people, or to become a "hot mom" to some people, often times they will begin to impose their goals or path with how it should be done on you. One thing I am learning on this journey to become MILFEE is that part of that means being your own woman. Determining what works for you, not everyone else.

It is an important part of our womanhood, of that sex appeal that attracted our mates, or father of our children, whatever your relationship may be, that we be able to think for ourselves, like we use to. People may get mad and call it you just doing you, but really, maybe you've learned a secret, that if you don't want to lose focus, sometimes you just have to be about it and not speak about it.

I once heard a psychic, who was accused of being a phony say that the reason she always told her clients never to disclose what she'd told them to anyone was because once you do that other people put their energy on it and THAT is what may change things and make them appear to be unreal. And yes, while it initially sounds like something to cover her ass, the basis of it is true. A lot of times what is being bred in you to be able to do to be successful at reaching your goal is for you. And if you go around letting others put their energy on it, saying that what you want to be is impossible, it may then enter into your brain as such, and that then may become true.

It is important, on this journey, to stay true to you. And a lot of times that means holding your goals close within to stay focused. See, I told you being MILFEE is about more than being "fine" although it is that too. But the initial work to change the outside back into this woman of pride comes from within. So, beyond feeling beautiful in the skin you're in, our first step is to feel great in the spirit we are in. THAT is what begins to make the difference in our lives, and makes us radiate, perhaps glow, the way we did when we were just on the journey to simply be...women.